On
a recent family outing, they spent a majority of the time up in a
tree, being squirrels — playing squirrel family, in fact.
Squirrel family has been a recurring game between them for years, but
living on the plains as we do, my kids experience a shortage of good
tree climbing opportunities.
They
gathered acorns, they climbed, they — I don’t even know
all that went on up in that tree, other than they were completely
occupied with the game and had fun. A lot of fun.
On
the drive home, I heard my daughter, age 6, quietly acting out some
scenario she had devised, and when we got home, I asked her to show
me what she was doing.
Out
of the acorns and leaves she had gathered, she had created a
miniscule world, wherein one acorn with a particularly long and
winding stem was serving as a mouse. I wouldn’t have noticed it
on my own, but when she pointed out, it clicked.
“Why
yes, Isabel! That looks exactly like a mouse!” I replied.
A
leaf served as the mouse’s bed, a little acorn was the mouse’s
stuffed animal, and two teeny perfectly shaped acorn tops were the
mouse’s cup and bowl.
This
little scenario occupied her for no less than three hours in total
that evening. And I was reminded of one of the key ingredients of
childhood, something that shapes those formative years and has an
impact on how they live, and what they remember from childhood:
imaginations.
I
remember the imagination I once possessed. I am famous — well,
at least among my cousins — for the ghost stories I used to
invent and tell as I went along, huddled in the eerie darkness of
grandma’s 3rd-story
attic. I have often pleaded for those ghost-telling abilities to come
back to me (because such things as ghosts and vampires do well these
days, no?).
I
remember the hours I could spend playing make-believe as a child,
where as now I find it almost difficult sometimes to engage in my
children’s pretend scenarios for even a few moments. But is
that imagination really gone? Where does it go? Perhaps we outgrow
it. Perhaps it becomes buried within us as the realities and
challenges and complexities of life take over. Or, perhaps it
transforms and grows with us; that need to create stories and games
and scenarios morphs into the need create: projects, careers, even
new life!
When
we become parents, we receive the distinct and amazing privilege to
experience life over again, to view things in a new, often
rediscovered way, to look once again through a child’s eyes. We
can certainly do our part to make the view a beautiful one.
While
some children are perhaps more vivid in their imaginations than
others, we should create an environment that allows time and
opportunity for active play, creativity, thinking and expression.
Perhaps a little less time in front of the television and computer
screens, and a little more time outside is what is needed. A little
less time in scheduled activities, a little more time to be children.
It never ceases to amaze me how I can easily provide the framework
for an activity, and then let their imaginations do the rest.
For
example, on a quiet, hot summer afternoon, cries of, “I’m
bored,” turned into an afternoon of much fun when I threw a
couple of play tents and blankets into the backyard.
In
teaching our children and striving to impress things upon their
minds, a most effective tool is to involve their imaginations. The
Primary lessons are filled with simple yet powerful methods of
helping children to learn through doing, singing, acting, seeing,
thinking, smelling or tasting.
One
of our most simple yet lasting family home evening lessons happened a
few years ago. My husband had selected the Thomas S. Monson talk
titled “Three Bridges” from the October 2003 General
Conference, in which President Monson talked about a book he had read
years ago titled The
Way to the Western Sea
by David S. Lavender. It contained, said President Monson, a
fascinating account of the journey of Meriwether Lewis and William
Clark as they led their expedition across the North American
continent to discover an overland route to the Pacific Ocean.
Then he said:
“Their
trek was a nightmare of backbreaking toil, deep gorges which had to
be crossed, and extensive travel by foot, carrying with them their
supply-laden boats to find the next stream on which to make their
way.
“As
I read of their experiences, I mused, ‘If only there were
modern bridges to span the gorges or the raging waters.’ …
In reality, we are all travelers — even explorers of mortality.
We do not have the benefit of previous personal experience. We must
pass over steep cliffs and turbulent waters in our own journey here
on earth.”
President
Monson then relayed that the Savior provided three bridges we need to
cross: the bridge of obedience, the bridge of service, and the bridge
of prayer.
To
demonstrate this point, my husband filled three bowls with water and
built a bridge across each one out of Legos, using a small Lego man
to then cross each bridge, and we named them each one as he went:
Obedience. Service. Prayer.
This
simple lesson required very little planning, yet has had years of
impact. Ask our children at any given moment what three bridges the
Savior has taught us to cross, and they will quickly answer “Obey!
Service! Prayer!”
Although
we as adults may not have the vivid imaginations that we did as
children, we need to help cultivate the imaginations of our children
— and in so doing, we might rediscover the joy of using our own
imaginations. I like to believe they are still a part of us.
Melissa Howell was born and raised in the woods of northern Minnesota. She has a degree in
journalism from the University of Minnesota.
As a single 20-something, she moved to Colorado seeking an adventure. She found one, first in
landing her dream job and then in landing her dream husband; four children followed.
Upon becoming a mother, she left her career in healthcare communications to be a stay-at-home
mom, and now every day is an adventure with her husband Brian and children Connor (9), Isabel
(6), Lucas (5) and Mason (2).
In addition, she is a freelance writer and communications consultant for a variety of
organizations.
Melissa serves as Assistant director of media relations for stake public affairs and Webelos den leader